![]() I really am sorry that that’s how you see things, and how you see me,īut I’m not going to clear a debt that never existed. ![]() If she sticks to the issue being your use of Netflix and you are set on not giving her the money then there is no point in pursuing matters into an argument, you have both stated your case to no avail and a fight won’t change that. This, something that is worrying or upsetting you… can you tell me True debt, but this is so strange and out of the blue that I am not I hate the idea that you think I wouldn’t honour a I had understood the Netflix thing to be just part of the giveĪnd take of being friends, like how I helped you with your computers I was really surprised that you thought I had been ignoring a debt to Do you care whether you salvage the friendship, do you want to stay in touch with her, do you care about how it looks to mutual friends, do you want to understand her motivation, do you want her to understand that you are hurt and offended by her action?īecause there are a number of imponderables, I can’t write you a failsafe script, but I can suggest that when you meet her you try something like this: How you tell her that you won’t be paying depends in part what you want to achieve. ![]() It is possible that the ten dollars has become in some way emblematic for the real issue. Whatever the driver for this monetary claim, the fact that she would go to this effort, which might well be confrontational and unpleasant for her as well, for such a modest sum suggests that it is a big deal to her. That is not to say she is correct but people’s perspectives on things that upset them often aren’t. It is also possible that your use of Netflix has been annoying her ever since it occurred and she is asking for this contribution as part of assuring herself that she has not allowed herself to be taken advantage of during her time in the country. I’ve never used Netflix and am not familiar with the business model, but before you go too much further with this you should double check that you didn’t watch some kind of premium content that was billable, or some kind of content that she is embarrassed to see on her account.) (This is assuming that you are correct in your assessment that there was no additional cost to her in your use of the service. This would not of course justify asking you to pay for something that you understood to be in the nature of a quid pro quo for your assistance with her computers, but it might explain where she is coming from. I wonder if, in the process of tidying up her affairs, settling up accounts etc in preparation for that departure, she is finding herself with unanticipated costs to meet and has in a panic started trying to ‘recoup’ expenses. The situation, as you have explained it, is that she is preparing to leave the country you are both in to go back to her home country. My first reaction is to wonder what is behind her move, and I think that how you deal with it may depend on what has prompted her action. What a sad turn of events and potentially a sour note to end her time abroad and to leave friendships on, I’m sorry that you have to deal with this. Tell her I am busy and will not be able to meet her (which could backfire if she asks me to send the money to her local bank account or give the money to one of her friends) Tell her I will pay her after she pays me for the tech support time I've spent with her (maybe this will make her realize how ridiculous her request is)Īsk her a series of questions to hopefully make her discover that her request is ridiculous (ie: "Was payment mentioned at the time?" etc.) How can I tell her I will not be paying her? We have friends in common so ideally I would like to do so gently. She is asking me to meet me tomorrow to collect payment as she will return to her home country after that. Whether I used it or not would not affect her bill. Fourth, she could and was using Netflix at the time. Third, this happened about 4 to 5 months ago. Second, around the time this happened, I was helping her a lot with various computer problems she was having. First, there was no mention of payment at the time I borrowed their Netflix. I do not feel I owe this person anything. In the message, my friend mentions that I borrowed her Netflix account for about a month (she said she calculated this from going back and looking at her browsing history in Netflix) and as a result, wishes me to pay for half the cost of a month of Netflix, or about $10. I recently received, out of the blue, a text message from a friend which very much surprised me.
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